How you communicate with your partner follows a pattern after you have been together for a period of time . When you add in the stress of planning a wedding there are new factors that affect how you make a point, debate or even argue . Discuss what things you would like to remove from your current pattern as well as those things that you feel work well .
Your current job may never have you moving but who knows what the future holds . Your partner may have always planned to live somewhere else in their future . Regardless if there is nothing like this in your plans currently it most certainly needs to be discussed to make sure you know what each other’s expectations are.
We are all products of our experiences and this includes how we were raised and our ideas on parenting. Having different styles in parenting could very well create a huge divide in a relationship in the future.
How you deal with pressure and obstacles has always been a personal thing . Moving forward you will part of a team . If you are someone that internalizes how you deal with adverse situations this is something else that will defiantly cause friction in a marriage
The subject of parents is two-fold. Your current relationship could defiantly be different with your parents in comparison to your partner’s . That in itself can be one factor to cause issue but also what will happen to your parents as they age can be another . You may be planning to move your elderly parents into your home in their latter years while you partner would feel that it is ok to have them live in care facility. Who will be responsible for those costs ?
The most important discussion before tying the knot would be about your financial situation . Many people are not honest about this and it is the #1 reason for divorce currently . If you have poor credit then working together to improve that as a couple is extremely important . It is one of the best things that you can do to strengthen your standing as a couple
…at the end of the day these are just a few of the major subjects that you should table before having the marriage discussion.