Who Is Who On The Bridal Shower Guest List

When getting married, it can sometimes be difficult to understand the proper etiquette involved with many of the wedding functions.  The bridal shower is no exception.  Many brides-to-be are left uncertain of the proper procedures to follow when planning a bridal shower and who to invite.  In addition, the proper role of different guests on the list can become confusing.  With a few simple rules of thumb, however, you are guaranteed to have a memorable and proper bridal shower.

Who Hosts the Bridal Shower?

The maid or matron of honour, and never the bridesmaids, traditionally hosts the bridal shower.  It is, however, acceptable for another close friend of either the bride or the groom to take on the responsibility.  For the most part, it is considered unacceptable for a close relative of the bride, such as the mother or siblings, to throw a bridal shower.  This is because it gives the appearance that the family is scouting for gifts.  In some areas of the country, however, it is customary for a close relative to throw the bridal shower.  In addition, if the bride does not have anyone else to throw the party for her, it may be acceptable for the mother or a sister to throw the party.  The family members should, however, try to have as little involvement as possible.  It is never considered acceptable for the bride to throw her own bridal shower.

Sometimes, the coworkers of a bride-to-be also decide to throw a bridal shower.  A group of coworkers or just one coworker may host this shower.  So far as etiquette is concerned, this is perfectly acceptable.  Just be sure to limit the guest list to coworkers.  Inviting friends and family to a bridal shower hosted by coworkers is tacky.

Who should be invited to the Bridal Shower?

You can invite whomever you want to your bridal shower.  Your guest list should certainly include your mother, your future mother-in-law, and your maid or matron of honour.  If the bride or the groom has a stepmother, she should also be invited.  Traditionally, a bridal shower involves only women.  But, co-ed bridal showers are gaining in popularity.  This decision is one you will have to make when creating your guest list.

Typically, brides-to-be invite their immediate family members to attend their bridal showers.  They also invite all of the female members of the bridal party, and the male members if the bridal shower is co-ed, and other close relatives.  Close friends are also invited to the bridal shower.  As a rule of thumb, only people who have been invited to the wedding itself should be invited to the bridal shower.  It is uncouth to invite someone to the shower without also inviting him or her to the wedding as it implies you are only interested in receiving his or her gifts.  You are not, however, expected to invite everyone who will be attending the wedding.  Of course, bridal showers hosted by co-workers are the exception ñ you are not expected to invite you co-workers to your wedding, even if they do throw you a bridal shower.

If you are having a difficult time deciding who to invite to your bridal shower and who not to invite, take a look at your wedding guest list.  First, eliminate all of the females with whom the bride does not know directly, such as the wives of male friends.  Next, cross off people who were invited to the wedding simply because it is proper, but who are not close to the bride.  This can include distant relatives or female friends of the bride-to-be’s parents.

What if there will be more than One Bridal Shower?

If you will be having more than one bridal shower, mothers, stepmothers, and female siblings on both sides, as well as the maid of honour, should be invited to every shower.  None of these women, however, should be expected to provide a gift at each shower.  In addition, the female siblings of the groom should have the option of choosing to attend only one of the showers.  Any other guests should be only invited to one of the showers.  If you do choose to invite someone to more than one shower, be sure to make it perfectly clear that the person is not expected to bring a gift each time

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Why Have An Online Wedding Toolkit

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Two people meet, they fall in love, they go crazy planning the wedding. That’s usually how the story goes, notwithstanding the fact that it is the golden age of wedding planners. Even with the most seasoned wedding coordinator on your speed dial, you, the bride-to-be, are probably on pins and needles about the wedding details. The little things become big things and the big things become gargantuan tasks that tax your strength and take away all the fun you’re supposed to be having. We don’t blame you for going a little nuts. After all, it is the most beautiful day of your life. Talk about pressure.

Some people start compiling and collecting the things or ideas they want to have in their own special day very early. Not all brides-to-be are gifted with that kind of foresight though; and if you’re one of those brides-to-be, don’t start hyperventilating yet. I’m going to tell you about what could be your best friend during this entire thing: the wedding kit.

What it is

A wedding kit is anything you can use to organize and compile wedding ideas or samples. It may be as plain as a scrapbook (to collect pictures of nice venues or wedding dresses) or as big as a box (with fabric samples or souvenirs)

Online wedding toolkits are becoming more and more popular with brides-to-be as well. These kits are much better than mere notebooks and boxes for one reason: they are more organized. They contain step-by-step guides, schedules, and reminders of what needs to be done up until the moment you say, ìI do.î Did we mention how easy they are to update? All you have to do is delete a task or idea you no longer want to do and replace it with something better. Maybe you’d changed your mind about that scuba wedding thing and decided that something aerial looks more fun?

Why Get One

A wedding toolkit, especially one you get online, gives you a sense of control when you start feeling a little overwhelmed. Not only does it keep you and all the details organized, it also keeps you on top of things. Your contact numbers, to-do lists, and countdown to the big day are all stored and organized in one place: your computer.

So instead of looking for a brown paper bag to breathe into, stop for a moment. There’s so much help available to ease the load of bringing your dream wedding to life. Remember, the most important thing during your wedding day is you, celebrating the start of your new life with the man you love. The rest is clutter.
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Why Fuss Over Wedding Centrepieces ?

Dreaming of having the perfect wedding is what every bride and groom wish for and why wouldn’t they with all the time and effort they put into the preparations. Wedding plans and what goes on behind the scenes is very time consuming. Things like ordering the wedding bands, gown, and securing the date for the reception hall and chapel can all prove to be an ordeal, but if carefully thought out instead of leaving arrangements like this to the last minute then you can be sure of a smooth road ahead.
Sometimes it is the little things that are overlooked that can cause the whole event to go pear shaped and one being is the absence of a centrepiece. Wedding centrepieces are beautiful embellishments that are extremely important. These eye catching pieces of work will add beauty where ever they are placed.

Centrepieces do not have to be the centre of attention on the day but if displayed with perfection in mind then expect surrounding areas to send out volumes of high tone attractiveness especially if the centrepiece is flowers.

Classical yet simple wedding centrepieces intend to evolve round flowers and ornaments. Flowers without doubt are a hot favourite for couples tying the knot because of the way the nature blooms add colour and project a lingering natural fragranced aroma. Check availability on flowers because they are seasonal and therefore your choice may have to be shipped in from another country.

Have an organizer come in early to arrange all flower displays; this will give you time to satisfy your curiosity of how they will look. Remember wrong blossoms can do more harm taking away beauty instead of enhancing it. Other ideal options for a wedding centrepiece are silver candelabras. If you are considering floating candles in a glass bowl then you have a guarantee of a pretty enough sight to take the limelight

Depending on where you marry centrepieces will differ, if the wedding ceremony is to be held in the garden then consider nature for your theme. Miniature birdhouses and flower baskets are fabulous items that can be used.

If after all those months of scrimping and scraping and you find your self still counting the pennies then budget wisely but do not fret. Have fresh fruit, just as sweet smelling as flowers but this way you get the best of both worlds where you have a centre piece juicy enough to eat.

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What Should Be In The Wedding Reception Contract

Never assume you have the wedding reception venue retained unless you have a written contract. At the very least, you must make sure the following things are part of your contract.

Everything that you agree on verbally should become part of the contract between you and your wedding reception venue.

The exact date of your wedding day. The exact time of you event should also be included.

Total cost and itemized rundown of what is included. Be sure to have accessories s…

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Never assume you have the wedding reception venue retained unless you have a written contract. At the very least, you must make sure the following things are part of your contract.

Everything that you agree on verbally should become part of the contract between you and your wedding reception venue.

The exact date of your wedding day. The exact time of you event should also be included.

Total cost and itemized rundown of what is included. Be sure to have accessories such as tables, chairs linens, etc. included.

How much decoration is included? What specific decoration is included? If you agreed on specific colours, be sure it is also included.

The date and dollar amount of your deposit and the date of when the total amount due.

The exact location of your event. If they have multiple rooms for events, be sure the name of the room is included in the contract.

Their cancellation or refund policy.

Emergency contact person. You should be provided with name and phone number of the emergency contact person.

Room capacity, to make sure the site accommodates your wedding party.

Contracts are a serious matter. They are legal and binding, so you might want an attorney or a wedding professional review the contract for you before you sign it.

Before signing the contract read it over carefully. Some companies will ask you to pay half of the total amount upon closure of the contract. Others will ask for a down payment. Be prepared with cash, personal check. To protect yourself, try to pay with a credit card. When reading the contract and before signing, find out what your obligations are. If you guests drink a bit too much, find out who would be responsible should anything happen.

Once you made your choice, you need to receive a written contract signed by the person in charge, and dated. The contract must include all of your responsibilities and all of the responsibilities, warranties and guarantees offered by the facility.
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The Wedding Dance

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Around the globe couples celebrate their unions with a wedding dance of some sort. Most religions, with the exception of those who still frown upon dancing, have some sort of wedding dance that is a part of this joyous event or the celebration of this event. This is much more than a simple dance. It is the dance that will begin your life as husband and wife. For this reason alone, many couples spend a great deal of time and effort choosing the perfect song to symbolize their love for each. Once decided, this is the song that is to be played for their wedding dance.

Your wedding dance is one of the few memories of your wedding that you will have forever. Most of your wedding day will go by in such a blur of faces that there will be few moments that stand out above the rest. Your wedding dance however, is the one time during your wedding reception that you and your spouse are truly alone within the crowd. All eyes may be on you both but this is your moment together and no one else in the room should matter at this moment. This is the reason that most people will remember their wedding dance long after they’ve forgotten other details about their wedding.

Some couples actually take wedding dance lessons in order to make sure that nothing goes wrong during their wedding dance. Many instructors often suggest that you use the shoes you will be wearing for your wedding as well as a skirt that is very similar to your wedding dress in order to actually get an honest feel for how you will be dancing on your wedding day. It is amazing how much of a difference the height of your shoes and the length of your skirt or train can make when it comes to dancing. These classes are very important for couples that truly want to have the fairy tale wedding experience though not necessarily practical for couples that are already working at the end of their budget constraints.

Ballroom dance lessons will often suffice for wedding dance lessons and in many cases are much less expensive if you can take them at a local community centre rather than taking private lessons. Group lessons are almost always more economical and can be a great way for you and your future spouse to learn to dance together in time for your big night and your wedding dance.

If budgets won’t even allow for this indulgence to make your wedding dance a little easier to handle you can always opt to purchase an instructional video or DVD. It would be great fun to practice your wedding dance together before the big night and it is a great way to have fun together as a couple even after the big night. You can find videos and DVDs that teach all manner of dance steps that you may find appealing.

Otherwise you can always wing it. Pick a song you love, a dance you like and have fun without worrying about getting it perfect. You are beginning your new life together as a couple and who really needs the pressure of dancing perfect, right? It is also your day and that is one thing that far too few brides really realize when getting caught up in the pressure of creating the perfect wedding within a limited budget.

The thing to remember when planning your wedding and your wedding dance is that you and your spouse to be are the most important people in the process. Do not allow yourself to feel pressured into something that you don’t want in order to appease others. Make your wedding day and your wedding dance completely your own if you are not interested in or comfortable with the idea of taking lessons from someone else. You and your partner will be glad that you did what was right for you when all is said and done.

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Post Wedding Activities

For many couples, the wedding is not over once the reception is. Depending on the location of the wedding and the couple’s relationship with their families, often there are other activities that follow the main event.

One of the most obvious is a breakfast the day following the wedding. This is a time for everyone to touch base with each other, check in on how everyone did and perhaps share memories of the night before. This breakfast activity can be as simple or elaborate as you like. Some people like to have this breakfast at a relative’s house because that is friendly and familiar and more conducive to everyone hanging out and enjoying themselves. It can be potluck style or catered. You can also meet up at a restaurant.

Many families like to have the bride and groom open presents the day after the wedding. There are many who believe the bride and groom are required to open presents in the presence of family for good luck. In that case, building in the opening of presents is essential. This can be a simple gathering of friends and family or you can turn the present opening into an all-out activity, where each item is opened, demonstrated or displayed and discussed in great detail.

Opening gifts doesn’t have to a dry activity. You can add some silly fun. How about starting with the smallest and moving to the largest gifts? Or working in the reverse order? You might even create a game. Everyone has to guess what’s in each gift prior to its being opened. (Of course, people can’t guess on their on gifts.) Someone can be in charge of keeping a tally and whoever gets the most right, wins a small prize.

The women in the bride’s family might want to help her pack up her gown (or send it to the dry cleaners) and preserve her wedding bouquet. This can easily be done at home and the women (particularly those who are crafty) might want to get started on preserving the flowers as well.

In the crafty light, some brides might want to plan a scrapbook party for after the wedding. You won’t have photos back from the photographer, but you can scrapbook many other wedding events, such as pre-events like manicures, various parties and the candid photos take by wedding guests the night before. More than being focused on the photos, this activity gives the women a chance to reflect on the events of the wedding, laugh at all the fun ties and journal and preserve memories before some are lost. It will also help the bride feel as if she’s partly in control of all those photos before she leaves on her honeymoon and takes yet more photos.

If gifts were opened on this “day after the wedding”, crafty groups might want to make thank you cards. Choose a design long before the wedding, perhaps even making a prototype as well. Then have all the supplies on hand and give everyone good ideas about how the cards should be made. Even the men can get on this act, helping to fold the cards, perhaps handling any computer work and even getting their fingers on glue and scissors. Send the bride and groom off with these homemade cards so when they get back from their honeymoon, all they have to do is jot off a quick note.

Some brides and grooms plan activities the day after the wedding that are designed to help everyone calm down, relax and unwind after what has likely been a busy weekend. In this light, you can plan a picnic at the park and bring along games to play. You might pack a football, a volleyball net or items to play baseball. You might bring along water guns or a dartboard. Whatever it is, the idea here is to have some fun and blow off steam. Make your own rules when playing the games. It really doesn’t matter. Today is about relaxing, unwinding and spending some quality time with friends and family before the special weekend is over.

Wedding Gown Pitfalls- How To avoid Making Costly Mistakes

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There are many things that can go wrong when one is shopping for a wedding gown. Here are some guidelines that will come in handy as you’re buying your wedding gown:

1. Set up a budget. Today, buying a wedding gown offers you a great deal of choices. Know your budget, and don’t try out such wedding gowns that are out of your budget as you will only let yourself down as well as adding a lot of pressure to your decision.

2. Decide on what style you want. The internet offers a lot of ideas as to the type of gown that you are envisioning. Take into account the location and the time of the ceremony. Make certain your gown correspond well with your other plans.

3. Start as early as possible. Once the wedding date is set, start on the search for your wedding gown.

4. Find and compare bridal salons.

5. Make appointments. Be sure to set up a meeting with the establishment that you are interested with and discuss with their designer your ideal wedding dress so she too, could have an idea what you are looking for. Listen too, to her suggestions.

6. Have your measurements taken. Don’t do the measurements yourself. Go to your bridal salon and let them take it for you. This will ensure precise measurements that will lead to a perfect fit.

7. Look at swatches. It is important that you know and feel the texture and the actual color of the fabric that will become your wedding gown. Swatches will be helpful in making your decision for a gown much easier.

8. Consider the rear view design of the gown. Your guests will be spending a lot of time looking at your back as the ceremony goes on. When looking through designs, take into account the gown design at the back that it should be as flattering as the front.

9. Bring a friend along. She can give you her honest opinion as to whether the style and design of your choice is perfect or alterations needs to be done; also how the dress looks like at different angles.

10. Consider comfort. You will be wearing the gown for at least eight hours, so it is important that the gown should feel comfortable. When trying it on, bend over, sit down, stand up, walk and dance to make sure that you can move with ease in your wedding gown.

11. Down payment. Usually, a fifty percent down payment is required as soon as you order your gown.

12. Ask for a receipt. Once you have decided on a gown and placed your down payment, then ask for a receipt indicating the amount of your down payment, the full description of the gown, delivery and due date.

13. Relax and enjoy. Allow the people at the bridal salon to pamper you in every way. Enjoy the thrill and the excitement of shopping for your wedding gown and of the thought that you will soon be marrying the person that you love.

Be cautious of:

1. Anybody who would insist on shipping your wedding gown to you. You have very little remedy or none at all, should anything go wrong. The price that you will be paying for alterations may be more than the discount that was given to you when they sent you the gown.

2. Anybody that is suggesting that you should do the footwork. It is best that you shop somewhere else.

3. Anybody who would require a full payment for your gown before it’s done.

It is always safe that you buy or order your wedding gown at the same shop that you selected it. There are many full service bridal stores that will cater to all your needs and your satisfaction is guaranteed. Your wedding gown is very important. Don’t take chances.

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